Adventures in Gardening with My Brown Thumb: Part 1

Growing up I never did much gardening. I'd occasionally help my mom with her garden, but I was never responsible for any plants myself. I've managed to keep a few house plants (barely) alive, but hadn't really tried to grow anything. Last Spring (2012) I made my first attempt. I planted some basil and oregano seeds in egg cartons in my East-facing kitchen windowsill (how I wish I had a South-facing window) and moonflower seeds in a container in the back yard.

My herbs outgrew their egg carton pretty quickly, so I transplanted them into something a bit larger. They didn't do to well in it either, though and eventually all died without ever getting big enough to get any use out of. In hindsight, I think I didn't have enough dirt for them, and I'm not the best at remembering things like watering plants. The moonflower on the other hand, was a success. It gave me one beautiful bloom, before going dormant in the F
all. This was the first (and so far only) time I've grown a mature plant from a seed. I had plans to plant around a couple of trees in my front yard, but I only got as far as putting up a border and half-prepping the soil. This year I'm trying to do a bit more.

So, Spring 2013 is here and I'm once again attempting to grow things. My husband got me a nice window-sill sized pot for growing herbs. They started growing, but weren't doing great, so my husband decided to move them to a west-facing window in the afternoon where they'd get more sun. Of course it was just my luck that the cardboard we'd taped up to block sun in the top of the window (yes, redneck, I know) fell down right into my pot of herbs, pretty well finishing them off. I continued to water them for a few days in case there was any chance of recovery, but to no avail. I also got the kids each a flower seed in a ceramic egg, but they never even seemed to start growing. I've weeded out my moonflower pot, but can't tell yet whether it will make a comeback.

I finally tackled the flower bed along the front porch of my house. There was a redbud tree (about 3' tall) growing in my front flower bed, too close to the house, and a dead tree (about 5-6' tall) in the back yard, so my husband and I removed the dead one and transplanted the redbud into its location. Three small bushes were already there when we moved in and I'm leaving them alone. There was also mint, which is nice, except that it was bent on world domination. I transplanted some of the min into a container, and tred to remove all the rest that I possibly could. I also dug up the first 4 inches or so of ground and pulled out any large rocks I found, which included a decent amount of concrete which must have escaped the forms when the porch was poured. We then put down weed fabric and some decorative things, and I finally got around to planting some strawberry plants today.

My in-laws have a lot of garden space, so I've started a fairy garden over there and hopefully the kids will be growing things over there too. I'll post updated and photos as I get around to it.

My Take on "The Toilet Seat Debate"

Do a Google search for "toilet seat debate," and you'll get over 500,000 results. Someone even designed a toilet that will automatically close the seat when it is flushed. My response is: "Seriously, does nobody have a freaking LID on their toilet?!?" Men AND women should be closing the toilet lid BEFORE flushing. This is such a stupid debate. That is all.

The Abortion Debate: How we agree, how we disagree, and why I'm confused.

When debating the ethics or legality of abortion, there's one thing I just don't understand. There are plenty of things to disagree about, and I try to see the other side of the argument as best I can. There are many tough situations to consider, and conflicting ideas about what defines a "person," who has a soul, and whether viability should be an issue. There are so many little things to consider, so I expect there to be much disagreement, but I also see a lot of agreement across the line between the pro-life and pro-choice sides.

Let's start with where we agree... The pro-life side wants to end abortion in all or most cases; the pro-choice side want abortion to be safe, legal, and rare. I think ending abortion and making it rare are compatible goals. We should be working together to eliminate the things which drive women to abortion, especially those who don't really want to abort. We can work on legislation to help prevent coerced abortions, whether a woman is being threatened by a boyfriend, or bribed by her parents. We can work on helping single mothers go to college or work. We can help to give women a safe refuge from abusive environments. We can promote education about sex, pregnancy, and abortion. Together, there are so many ways we can help women and reduce the number of abortions. Another thing we agree on is the safety of women. As long as abortions are happening, both sides can agree that we want the woman to be safe. An abortion clinic should not be exempted from the health and safety regulations which govern other medical facilities. Abortion clinic workers should not be enabling abusers. If we really tried, we could create legislation together to protect women, without fighting. We all want women to be safe, and the pro-life side should be happy to protect women "in the mean time," while still working to end abortion all-together. Most of us probably also agree that infanticide is unacceptable, that treating women like crap doesn't solve anything, and that we will never agree on everything.

So now the bit where we disagree... Obviously the pro-choice side wants abortion to be legal, and the pro-life side wants it to be illegal. It's not that simple though; even the line between pro-life and pro-choice is pretty blurry. Some want to outlaw abortion altogether; some want exceptions only when the mother is in danger; others want to also have exceptions for rape, incest, and maybe other things; some people want to allow it up to a certain point, whether that's when there's a heart beat, when there's viability, or at X weeks; others want it "safe, legal, and rare" for anyone at any point; there are even a few who think it should be so readily available that it can simply be another birth control method. Speaking of birth control, there's another thing we disagree on, especially within the pro-life side. Some people think all kinds of birth control are fine and good; some think only certain types are ok; a few believe the only acceptable reason to have sex, is to make babies. Some of these people want to legislate these beliefs; others think it is their moral decision, but not a legal issue. Another disagreement which is not split along the life vs choice line, is whether men should even have a say in the abortion issue. Probably the biggest issue on which we disagree, though, is the definition of "Personhood." What makes a person? Does one have to be able to breathe? Live outside the womb? Have a heartbeat? Look like a person? Have unique DNA? Have a soul? How do you know if someone has a soul? Then, if it is a person, other issues arise. What if the baby will die or likely die shortly after birth? What if they are or will be in pain? Is a "mercy killing" an acceptable lesser evil? I have my own opinion, but there is no clear scientific answer to many of these. I can see the argument to disagree with my opinion on these points.

As I said from the start, there is one thing I just don't understand. Now if I have informed myself well enough to form an opinion, and I can understand where the other side is coming from on many of these issues, how can I be confused? I am confused because there is one simple fact, which most of us learned in high school biology, that is still debated by some: that a new life begins at conception. Now you can argue that a new human life does not equal a person, or that an embryo is less valuable than a born baby, but to say that a human embryo is not a human life simply makes no sense. Science has already pinpointed the starting point of a new, unique, living organism, and it makes no sense to argue with this.

In case you've been wondering, I am pro-life. I think abortion should only be legal when it is medically necessary to save the life of the mother. The law should also allow women to get life-saving medications and/or procedures, even if it endangers their unborn child, without fear of punishment. The only methods of birth control I have a problem with, are the ones which can cause abortions; I think men have just as much right to speak about abortion as women do; I believe that if our society took better care of women and babies, the "need" for abortion would be reduced; I think we need to simplify adoptions, as well as open up the chance to adopt to more people, such as single people, and gay couples; and I think that it's better to work together to make abortion rare, than to simply fight about whether to allow it at all.

Kid's Own Calendar

 So, while looking around online (I think on Jumpstart.com) I saw the suggestion that you let your child draw a picture for each calendar month. I didn't like the idea of buying a calendar only to cover up each month's picture with my son's artwork, so I decided to make a 2013 calendar for James (age 4) with nothing more than the name of the month, days of the week, and of course numbers, so that he can fill it in as he likes. First I made a document on the computer, which you can download here. Then I printed it off, added a blank sheet to the front, and stapled all 13 pages together. He wrote "James's Calendar 2013" on the front. Now we can add holidays, birthdays, and anything else he wants.